This seemed to be a popular topic of conversation on Twitter yesterday and I figure I would eventually get to it here anyway so what better time then now!?
The following are the steps which I would ideally like a guy to follow leading up to a first date. In some cases I have skipped over a step here and there or added in a few, but over all I think this is a fair and appropriate execution:
Step One: Guy finds interest in my profile (on one of the various sites I am a member of) and messages me with a competent and interesting introduction.
Step Two: I review Guy’s profile and in finding a mutual interest I message him back with general commentary on his profile or intro message.
Step Three: After a few exchanges, if the conversation is going well, I provide my personal email (note: I am not a fan of Instant Messaging or talking on the Phone right away, though I have made exceptions to this in some cases).
Step Four: Guy requests a meet up.
Step Five: I agree to meet Guy over coffee or a casual drink and provide my phone number so that we can discuss the arrangement.
Step Six: Meet Guy for Coffee/Drink, but keep it short and sweet. If all goes well we should agree to a 1st date before departing.
Step Seven: Our 1st Date. Nothing fancy – lunch or dinner at a casual spot will do. Maybe a cocktail or two and some witty banter.
Now, I’d prefer not to be asked to go out again while still on the 1st date. I think a guy should follow up the next day or shortly thereafter if he is interested. Plus, if I am no longer feeling him at the end of the date, it takes some pressure off me where I am likely to say yes to your face when I really mean No Thank You.
This is just me. I am sure many of you have your own plans of execution, right?
*Thanks to @eFlirtExpert and @TheWillEd for prompting this post with their Tweets!
