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May 23rd, 2012

Right where I’m supposed to be… or am I?

UntitledA few weeks ago I came to the realization that I am right where I am supposed to be. I’ve been happier than I have been in a very long time.

I accept full responsibility for my Singletude. I am Happily Single!

That’s not to say I wouldn’t enjoy being less single, if the right guy was interested ;) but for now, I enjoy my life. As is.

Isn’t it funny how just when you start to get used to life, it switches things up on you?

So I really shouldn’t be surprised when I get a call from my manager … AKA My Favorite-est Manager EVER!!  More than “Greatest Boss” mug worthy … telling me that a re-org announcement will be made shortly and she will no longer be my manager *major sadface*. She has been the most supportive, inspirational, encouraging, caring manager I have ever had the pleasure of working with.

Well, before I get too tear-y eyed over it …

My point of the post comes from something she said to me earlier today. How maybe sometimes things are just meant to change, something that I had been trying to tell myself yesterday. It doesn’t mean I am not still on track. I’m sure it’s only a matter of time before I am settled in to life again when I have to duck another curve ball!

I am making peace with the fact that I have lost … and hope for another opportunity to work with her again in my future.

Now I am looking forward to the challenges which come with change and more opportunities to make an impact in my career. It’s what I thrive on. I think this change will make a positive impact on our business unit and improve process in need of attention. I hope to be a major contributor to change  – for the better!

Oh, and my new manager happens to be really great too and I think we will work well together :D

Wish me luck!

May 7th, 2012

Excerpt from a Social-life

It’s a tough job being a socialite, but someone’s gotta do it, right?

The past four days felt like a whirlwind of mixing and mingling and meeting people.

I hosted a meetup for my local group kicking off Thursday at the Morris Tap & Grill. We were joined by another group in the area and even had some samplings from Bolero Snort Brewery! I’m so happy to hear much everyone enjoyed it.

Friday night I popped by the neighbor’s for some pre-Cinco de Mayo cocktails and quickly found myself in the midst of a college frat party!

At first I felt like if they were to card me I’d get kicked out, but it too turned out to be a really fun night … and with the greatest neighbors in the whole town how could it go wrong? :D

Saturday night started off with an A Capella Invitational at a local high school. What an awesome experience it was. All of the kids were so talented and Street Corner Symphony, from The Sing-off season 2, drove all the way from TN to perform!

Check them out and buy some tunes. They were truly entertaining.

Met some friends for a late night bar crawl and finally got to check out the new late night grilled cheese place in town.

And let me just say, there is nothing so horrifying as a grilled cheese at 2am under intensely bright lights when it’s humid, rainy and your over heating cus you just danced your ass off.

A weekend to remember for sure, but now … time to prepare for my upcoming social calendar and see if I can actually fit in time for everything else too!

Wish me luck!!

April 28th, 2012

SingleEdition B3 Workshop

I’m on a train … headed into the city to attend the SingleEdition Media’s B3 Workshop taday ay Lord and Taylor.

The day will be filled with sessions desigbed to help us lifestyle bloggers build our brand, business and bank accounts!

In the past I’ve had the pleasure of attending similar SingleEdition events, which were focuses on the single lifestyle, with the Live the Life You Love series.

Not only do these events offer us singles great advice and support,  tgey also give opportunity to network with a dynamic group of women (men too) who in many ways are much like me.

I’m so appreciative of these opportunities and feel very fortunate to be a member of the SingleEdition media team.

I’m hopeful to walk away with some inspiration and motivation to focus on really giving my blog the attention it deserves. I often feel like I’ve lost touch with my audience and have a hard time contributing unique content.

The truth is, I have more questions than answers in life and feel challenged to provide readers with something to take away from my posts. So I neglect it. I realize this is silly and a big part of me doesn’t really care if my words are seen by one or one hundred sets of eyes.

Here’s hoping the B3 Workshop will give me the kick in the pants i need every so ofetn!

I can’t wait to share in my experience more post-event so stay tuned!

April 27th, 2012

Being Single doesn’t have to be Scary

I’m Happily Single with a great big emphasis on “Happily”.

I’ve finally reached a point in my life where I’m comfortable with who I am, where I’ve come from and where I can go.

It wasn’t that long ago, fresh from divorce and end of a 17 year relationship, that being single scared the shit out if me.

I spent hours scouring dating profiles in search of what I thought I needed. Serial dating and becoming more and more terrified with each failed love connection that I would end up alone and crazy with only my cats for companionship.

Crazy is thinking there’s anything wrong with that scenerio.

I mean how could anyone possibly be alone. What with all the online and offline social outlets. I hardly have time to give a second thought to dating and relationships these days.

Society has historically stigmatized single women, especially those if us over 30. Add to that “divorced” and I might as well have a big sign over my head labled damaged.

Well, I may have a few bruises and I’m a little more guarded than I once was, but I still have plenty of good years left and I’m planning to enjoy each and every one!

It pains me to see other women, close friends of mine, suffering through sadness of singletude. They haven’t reached the same achievements as I have. I can encourage and support them to embrace single life, but I can’t force them to see through my rose colored glasses.

Being single doesn’t have to be scary. It’s your time to make life all about you. Do what makes you happy. Celebrate your independence and let no one stand in your way of being the greatest you the world has ever seen!

Life is too short. “Don’t worry, be happy” -Bobby McFerrin

April 21st, 2012

Divine Diamonds are a Single’s Best Friend!

As a little girl there were two things that I always admired about my Mother. Her make up and her collection of sparkly jewelry – both of which were pretty much off limits to me … especially her bling! She kept it all very organized in jewelry boxes and instilled a very high sense of value in me for the items. I think she was mostly worried I would break or lose something.

As I grew up I rarely wore jewelry and when I did it was the cheap stuff from Claire’s … and yes, I often lost earrings and such.

When my Father remarried my Step-Mother gave me gold ring with my initial on it. I loved it. It made me feel special and gave me a sense of belonging. I wore it so much I nearly wore the band out!  It now resides in my jewelry box along with a few other sentimental pieces from my life.

A few years later my boyfriend gave me a promise ring. It had a teeny little diamond but I didn’t care much about the components as much as the symbolism. Again a ring instilled a sens of belonging and when a prong broke and the diamond was lost I was heart broken!

Eventually (about 6 years later) that boyfriend of mine proposed to me with a big shiny diamond ring. It became a part of me. I would spend hours just staring at it, mesmerized by the sparkle. It truly was my best friend.

Now that I am divorced and happily single one thing I often miss is the ring.

Sure I can glam up with a big sparkly flower or jewel encrusted spider … but there is still something missing. The sense of belonging to something bigger, the natural sparkle of the diamond, the feel of fitted band around my finger.

About a year ago I was at a singles networking event and had the pleasure of meeting Ruta of Divine Diamonds. She has created The Ah Ring for single women, like me, to show off they’re Available and happy!

Now there is no need to wait for a man to “put a ring on it”. The Ah Ring is an empowering symbol of a joyful, single, confident woman in 14k white gold. With eleven full cut diamonds it’s sure to add just the right amount of sparkle my life is lacking. And at the affordable price of $350.00 Divine Diamonds gives us a chance to create a new commitment … to being happily single and proud of it!