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My Mother thinks I’m Un-Dateable

Not too long ago my Mother, in an attempt to find a way to reach me in other than the phone that I never answer, Googled me. Sure enough she found her way to to my blog, podcast and even my Twitter!

Now that she has full insight into my over-sharing on the Internet she’s seems to think that all of this is slightly detrimental to my dating life and that no good man would be interested in a girl who podcasts, blogs and tweets about whatever is on her mind, not to mention donning a few tattoos here and there.

“You need to clean up your blog/website. Some of the stuff you have on there, which any potential guy can just google (and they do) is pretty questionable. Especially that broad stuff. I don’t think your going to find anyone decent and serious about a relationship who would think all that stuff is a plus. And don’t get any more tattoos and if you do go out with someone keep the tatts covered and don’t tell him about them until you have an established relationship!”

Thank you for the laughs, Mom. I know you mean well and I do appreciate your opinion, but I think I am going to need to consult some additional resources on this subject matter.

So, I took it to my best guy friend to see what his thoughts were. His reply was “I think those things make you interesting and very datable”.

I can see how some guys might think that blogging about “adult toys” and discussing “adult toys” in a podcast might not be every-one’s idea of wholesome and appropriate topics, but that’s me. That is who I’ve chosen to be and to be quite honest if a guy doesn’t want to date me because of it, then I really don’t want to date him either.

I know I am limiting my pool of bachelors by being so out there online, I encourage my Twitter followers to google me so why not potential suitors?

Readers, I ask you to take a moment and tell me what you think. If you know me and the things I talk about online then I am guessing this is why you friend/follow me, but if you don’t I invite you to check out my other blog at http://digitallydiva.com and give me your honest opinion.

I’d really prefer not to remove or hide any content, but if I get an overwhelming response in-favor of it then perhaps I need to reconsider.

Thanks much for your feedback!

Time Tuesday, March 30th, 2010, 2:00 PM   |   CategoryDigitally Dating  |  RssRSS feed |  CommentRespond  |  TrackbackTrackback

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  • http://www.digitallydating.com/ Kat

    HEY! That Broad Cast was FANTASTIC!

    My boyfriend googled me … well, not “me”, since he didn’t know my last name. He googled “Kat Glimmer” and found all of the same stuff above. He became *very* interested. So hey – it’s not a bad thing.

    • http://DigitallyDating.com TheDiva

      That’s good to know, Kat! I can’t imagine someone finding my #vajazzle would be a turn off.

  • http://www.structuredthought.org AlexDeGruven

    Today’s world is completely different from the one in which your mom grew up. Particularly when you take into account everyone’s ‘digital persona’, the amount of information people are willing to share to the world is much greater than even 10 or 15 years ago.

    Today, it’s expected that someone could just Google someone else’s name, and get at least a couple of relevant results. Sometimes this could even just be limited to a twitter or facebook account, but that still allows people to get some insight about who you are (or, at least, who you’re willing to tell people you are).

    Sure, there are limits, and the danger of oversharing is very real. But it would take a lot to push someone away these days.

    Besides, if someone’s going to be turned off by the information you’re willing to share online, are you sure they’re someone you’d want to date, anyway?

    • http://DigitallyDating.com TheDiva

      Thanks for the feedback, Alex! I agree – if you can’t accept me for who I am, then buzz off!! :D

  • http://twitter.com/ndiaz_v2 Nelson

    I’ve been following you for a while and if I lived close to you I surely invite you to go out, maybe not for a date because I’m already engaged with a lovely girl, but as a friend because the image I got from you (the image you broadcast) is a very lovely/friendly girl.

    For me, you are very datable. Maybe a little wild, but perfectly normal girl.

    Maybe people not used to digital/connected times don’t find you very datable, but people like me apreciate the crystal clear personality you reflect on your “broadcast”

    Keep doing the way you are!

    Nelson!

    • http://DigitallyDiva.com TheDiva

      Aww.. thanks Nelson!! and congrats to you and your lovely girl! :)

  • jay

    You actually live pretty close to me such that I’ve seen your profile on one of the local dating sites. I was going to send you a message but one wrong move… and i get throat-punched!

    • http://DigitallyDiva.com TheDiva

      HAHAHA! That is way too funny! Thanks for the comment!

  • http://www.ashleighdickins.com Ashleigh

    Girl. I was telling your ex, Ex, when you got Vajazzled that you were my new hero. I totally look up to you and if potential suitors (how’s that for old school DivaMom?) don’t dig you for who you are then they can step. Besides, if you change yourself for someone else, it’s completely false and eventually blows up in your face and makes everyone involved unhappy and hurt. So no. Keep it up Diva!

    • http://DigitallyDiva.com TheDiva

      Thanks for your support, Girly!

  • TheGuy

    I think that your honesty and confidence to believe in yourself and your lifestyle should be a tribute and example to all women that plan on wading into the online dating pool. As a guy, and online dater, I want honesty and trust in a relationship and would not consider entering into one if I thought my partner had to live a double life to appease me. I am not looking for what you think you want me to find, I want to find what I am really looking for, and it starts with originality…so keep it real Diva, your good at it, and this guy is likin’ the vibe..

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  • http://www.keeme.com Keeme

    Diva, You are perfect as you are… never let anyone tell you differently.

    Mom, You daughter is hot and anyone turned off by her online “ways”, tattoos or other is probably going to be boring and controlling. She will find a match. It may not be your version of perfect, but it will be hers.

  • The walrus

    The comment your mom made to you would be the equivalent of HER mother saying to her “no man in their right mind would want to date a woman that wants a college education and wears pants!”

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