I recently started talking to this guy on OKCupid. I haven’t been fully out there looking to date anyone right now, but I still check my online dating profiles about once a week to sort through new messages and chat with other members about online dating and such.
Well, this guy seemed interesting enough and so I pursued a first date. The plan was set and we were to meet for drinks on Thursday after work. It just so happened he wanted to meet at the same place I had just met that guy from Chemistry.com who turned out to be a total fail. This should have been the only sign I needed.
Thursday fell through. He got tied up with work and then in traffic and by the time he would have gotten there it would have been too late, so we pushed to possibly doing drinks on Friday. I don’t know if it would have actually happened or not but I ended up canceling on him thanks to some extreme stomach pains. . . Ice Cream and I are no longer friends.
So once again we rescheduled – this time Saturday Lunch. I got up and went to the gym early and started to get a little concerned as I hadn’t received a confirmation on what time we would be meeting. We exchanged a couple texts while I was at the gym, but no answer to what time. I got home from the gym, showered and started getting hungry. Still no reply. Getting blown off apparently.
Then I decided to text his work phone and he explained that he left his cell at home when he had an emergency at work he had to attend to. He seemed sincere and asked me if we could do dinner. I agreed and went on with my day, but once again I didn’t get a time to meet. . . I’m obviously not too great at date planning.
Dinner time rolls around and he is MIA. I decide to wait until 7 before totally giving up figuring he might have gotten caught up. 6:58 a text comes through – “Hey Cutie! Came home and fell asleep”. That’s it. No other signs of life what so ever and another platinum member of the Douchebag Club is born!
So what have I learned from all of this?
As much as I wasn’t looking for anything super serious to come out of this 1st date, I am very sensitive to rejection. This made me think about how I have made other people feel by rejecting them and I am really not feeling that scene right now.
One good thing that has come out of all of this is an opportunity to give it another go with a guy who I’ve been talking to for a few months now. I haven’t really given him the fairest shot, but he also has some things to work on if he wants to keep me hooked. Lucky for him I am good at bossing…err… giving direction….uhh….constructive criticism.
I hope he really is up for the challenge, cause I think we’ll make a pretty good team.