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November 7th, 2010

Calling all Single Bloggers!

I’ve been blogging and podcasting for a few years now and with that comes the occasional opportunity to leverage my site as a means for promoting events, people and of course products, but what about Advertising?

How does a single chick like me even get started with Advertising anyway?

Well, SingleEdition.com has the answer! They are building an awesome blog network for singles like me who write about dating, cooking for one, living single, and much much more!!

Are you in?

Learn all about it at SingleEdition.com/Join-Our-Blog I’m really looking forward to being part of this new venture and watching it grow and I hope to see all my single blogger friends doing it too!

October 26th, 2010

So Indecisive

That is me for quite some time now and I feel as though I am getting worse with time and singularity.

I enjoy being single. It’s nice to have all this time to myself after many, many years of there always being someone else to consider. I’m pretty selfish in general so naturally I’m quite content having me all to myself.

So why do I keep feeling like I need to date or find a man to share a part of my life with? Do I really need one? More importantly do I really want one? Is what I am feeling a result of society’s influences on me? I swear it’s like being a teen who feels the need to rock the latest designer jeans … ‘cus all her friends are doing it.

True, not ALL my friends are dating or in relationships, but those who are seem to be more prevalent to me then those who aren’t and I do feel a bit envious of them.

It would be so nice to have someone around to hang out and watch a movie with, to cook for/with, to enjoy a night out with occasionally, to plan adventures with, to take little day trips into the city for a walk in the park, or visit a museum, or go to a concert, maybe a drive to the shore or a scenic ride in the country?

All of that sounds so nice, but I still can’t decide if I really need it. What’s worse is I haven’t the slightest idea how to find it or maybe I just don’t have the patients to wait for someone to fill the position so I bounce between wanting and not wanting it for myself.

Am I wrong in thinking when the time is right it will all fall in to place? When the right one comes along I will just know it? Or are there a specific set of actions I should be taking in my life to put me on the right track?

XOXO Diva

October 24th, 2010

Blown off the Market

I recently started talking to this guy on OKCupid. I haven’t been fully out there looking to date anyone right now, but I still check my online dating profiles about once a week to sort through new messages and chat with other members about online dating and such.

Well, this guy seemed interesting enough and so I pursued a first date. The plan was set and we were to meet for drinks on Thursday after work. It just so happened he wanted to meet at the same place I had just met that guy from Chemistry.com who turned out to be a total fail. This should have been the only sign I needed.

Thursday fell through. He got tied up with work and then in traffic and by the time he would have gotten there it would have been too late, so we pushed to possibly doing drinks on Friday. I don’t know if it would have actually happened or not but I ended up canceling on him thanks to some extreme stomach pains. . . Ice Cream and I are no longer friends.

So once again we rescheduled – this time Saturday Lunch. I got up and went to the gym early and started to get a little concerned as I hadn’t received a confirmation on what time we would be meeting. We exchanged a couple texts while I was at the gym, but no answer to what time. I got home from the gym, showered and started getting hungry. Still no reply. Getting blown off apparently.

Then I decided to text his work phone and he explained that he left his cell at home when he had an emergency at work he had to attend to. He seemed sincere and asked me if we could do dinner. I agreed and went on with my day, but once again I didn’t get a time to meet. . . I’m obviously not too great at date planning.

Dinner time rolls around and he is MIA. I decide to wait until 7 before totally giving up figuring he might have gotten caught up.  6:58 a text comes through – “Hey Cutie! Came home and fell asleep”.  That’s it. No other signs of life what so ever and another platinum member of the Douchebag Club is born!

So what have I learned from all of this?

As much as I wasn’t looking for anything super serious to come out of this 1st date, I am very sensitive to rejection.  This made me think about how I have made other people feel by rejecting them and I am really not feeling that scene right now.

One good thing that has come out of all of this is an opportunity to give it another go with a guy who I’ve been talking to for a few months now. I haven’t really given him the fairest shot, but he also has some things to work on if he wants to keep me hooked. Lucky for him I am good at bossing…err… giving direction….uhh….constructive criticism. 🙂

I hope he really is up for the challenge, cause I think we’ll make a pretty good team.

July 20th, 2010

Soul-mates

I’ve been thinking a lot about the idea of a soul-mate lately. I’ve always believed that somewhere out there was someone who shared a connection with me greater then this life. My one true love.

Yes, I believe in past lives and I feel that our souls carry a connection from life to life and if you are lucky, and the connection is strong, then fate will bring you together in future lives.

The Urban Dictionary defines a soul-mate as “The one person who can always make you smile, who shares your hopes and dreams, who makes you whole.” Based on this I have been fortunate enough to have found many soul-mates, but not “The One”. No, he is still out there somewhere… hopefully in search of me too.

Further definition states “Folklore claims that when a soul descends to earth it splits in two, each half of the soul inhabiting a separate body. These two people are forever after ‘soulmates,’ and will never be complete until they find one another.” How utterly fairy tale…I can just feel the dreamy sparkles in my eyes.

So, I asked my friends on Twitter and Facebook if they believed in soul-mates and after the responses I received I am starting to think now that soul-mates can be greater then just your one true love.

According to Merriam-Webster.com a Soul-mate is defined as “a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament”, which very well could mean best friends and such. Especially my BFFs…they’d never be able to stand me with out a similar temperament. 😀

Well, Perhaps they are the people who are most meaningful in your life. Those who take you at your best or your worst and love you unconditionally? The ones who make you laugh so hard you cry? Those who are always there for you no matter what?

All I know is I really like the idea of a soul-mate. I imagine one day mine will find me out of the blue, very random and completely unexpected… then we will ride off into the sunset.

Ok, enough of the day dreaming. Must get back to work, but I am interested to hear if anyone out there has found their soul-mate and the story that goes along with it.

Please do share!

April 28th, 2010

My Mother thinks I’m Gay

First I was undate-able, now I’m a Lesbian? Actually, she thinks my BFF Kat is the Lesbian and since birds of a feather flock together… I must be too!

She blames it on the “questionable content” of my blog and podcast. I am having some trouble putting together the connection, but apparently it’s enough to make my own Mother question my sexuality.

How does this affect my dating eligibility? I usually reserve much of my over sharing on the internet from the guys I am talking to until I know they are truly interested in me and can absorb that side of me with out losing interest.

I wont lie, I have considered switching teams more then once. I think every girl does at times in her life. For me it’s when I am discouraged with the dating scene and less than desirable prospects.

I’m not thoroughly convinced though. I mean based on the amount of male attention I get on the inter-webs and the majority of male audience of the (retired) podcast I can’t see what would give off such an impression.

Maybe I should poll my gay and lesbian friends and see what they think? Please give me some feed back on this, readers. I am curios about what kind of person my content is making me out to be!

And seriously?…I bet my Mother doesn’t even know any lesbians! LOL