“Rejection is a part of life. Everyone experiences it. Everyone doles it out. Accept it. Learn from it. And move on.” – Something She Dated: A How-To Guide to Rejection.
Funny that this post show up in my stream today.
When I recently met “DC” it was completely unplanned and totally unexpected. I was living high on the life of a single chick, in a new town, making all new friends and not having a care in the world about dating. That’s when they say it happens.
It happened and I want to be with him every day more than the last. I am growing to know him better and better and it feels right. I’m giving up my Single Status.
But back to the being Happily Single. Some may argue that I was less than concerned about dating thanks to long term non-commital casual relationships.
I don’t deny it. It’s my life and it’s what made me happy at the time, but I’ve decided to let that happiness go in exchange for something that just feels right and thus I am faced with having to issue a rejection.
I’ve been quite successful in the past with most opportunities to cut someone off, crush them, break hearts.
The shitty part is hurting someone’s feelings. Worse the closer you are, because you can’t help but care for them, after all if you didn’t you wouldn’t have kept them around.
That is why it was so amazing that this advice should appear in front of me like fate. The same fate that has brought DC and I together. The one I am following with an open heart and open mind.
“As for how to do it? It’s still simple. A text, a phonecall, an email. While some people may get all crazy about the method of how something is done, the truth is they’re usually just hurt at being rejected (which is normal) and it’s less about the medium than the message. So be thoughtful and kind but blunt. Don’t send mixed messages, just be honest, you’re not into them.”
My medium is obvious. I’m truly sorry if you were expecting more from me or thinking what we had was going to last forever. It’s not, so I need to wish you all the best, but goodbye.
If you get this kind of rejection, it’s okay to feel hurt, that’s life. It’s even okay to moan about it to your friends and throw a hissy fit in the privacy of your own home. What you want to do is respond politely and rationally and keep the crazy to yourself because the truth is the hurt and anger will fade and you never know if that person will have taught you something or will have another role in your life. Don’t burn your bridges like a crazed lunatic, eat some ice cream and get past it.”
Please go read all the other awesomeness of A How-To Guide to Rejection: Knowing How and When to Reject Someone (and how to react when it happens to you.