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June 22nd, 2012

Digitally Dating

For a long while this term has been used in conjunction with my online dating adventures, but more recently it has taken on new meaning as DC and I are engaging our long distance love affair with the use various online tools – email, Facebook, Skype, Google docs, even Pinterest!

How did such love affairs survive before there were internets!?

I can’t even imagine having to wait 2-3 days for a letter to send/arrive. My gawd the thought of it makes my heart ache for long distance lovers past. We are somewhat spoiled by the near instant gratification of these methods of communication … and eventually we might even go real time with texting and phone calls, which are currently a premium since *someone* doesn’t have a smart phone and unlimited text/talk time 😀

Gimme a ticket for an aeroplane,
Ain’t got time to take a fast train.
Lonely days are gone, I’m a-goin’ home,
‘Cause my baby just a-wrote me a letter.

Well, she wrote me a letter
Said she couldn’t live without me no mo’.
Listen mister can’t you see I got to get back
To my baby once a-mo’–anyway…

-The Box Tops

March 1st, 2012

Things NOT to ask on a First Date

This morning I caught a Tweet referencing a trending topic “Bad First Date Questions”.

I shared a few from my personal experience and thought it would make for a fun, quick & dirty post.

“Are those real?”
On a first date at a Hotel Bar “So, do you want to get a room?”
“Are you a Democrat or Republican?”
Him “How does July sound?” Me “For what?” Him “Our wedding”
At dinner “How about we just share an appetizer”
“Do you want to be exclusive?”
“So, when is the last time you had sex?”
“My Ex-wife and I are having an open house tomorrow, do you want to come?”
“Is your sister single too?”
“Why are you single?”
“Do you mind if I bring my kid?”

I’ll let you decide which of these I’ve actually heard versus those I just think are straight up No Nos. Please share your own in the comments!

August 4th, 2011

Disease and Dateability

For the past several months I have been adjusting to a life with Autoimmune Disease. It’s caused me some sever Psoriasis and Psoriatic Arthritis, which is essentially Rheumatoid Arthritis.

At my best I have a bit of stiffness in the morning, but at my my worst my scalp, face and body is covered with patches of itchy red, flaky skin and the arthritis causes my feet to swell and throb in pain the point where just standing brings me to tears. Oh and then there are the side effect of the medication… nausea anyone?

It’s been quite depressing. Week after week I pray that the medications will bring me some relief. I’ve even drastically changed my diet to avoid any foods which trigger inflammation in hopes that not only will it help me, but that I will not gain any more weight now that I am unable to keep up with a regular exercise routine.

On the outside you’d probably look at me and see a little dry skin or redness here and there, maybe you’d notice that I move a little bit slower, or notice that I cringe a little from the pain when I walk…all in all it’s not easy to detect the pain and frustration I have inside, but It’s really hard to feel good about your self, pretty even, when I look in the mirror and notice the hair loss my medication is causing, or the dandruff-esq flakes that fall from my scalp and skin.

This disease has really taken a toll on my socail life, especially dating, and while my Facebook status reflects I am “currently in a relationship” I’m really not feeling up to it anymore.

I have been struggling with these feelings for the past week as my heath has litterally gone down the toilet. We are exclusively dating and he is a really nice guy, but I’m not sure it’s fair to either one of us to continue to do so.

Before we met I contemplated listing my disease in my dating profile, but decided against it. I mean why would I want to put that out there before someone even gets a chance to know me? What a turn off.

Yet here I am, shutting myself off to much of the world and this guy. Maybe I’m being selfish. On one hand it’s nice to know I have someone who wants to hear from me, even if I have been completely crabby day after day. On the other hand I feel like I just can’t be bothered with this right now.

It scares me to think that my disease could get the best of me and keep me from living a happy life in a happy relationship. I know this can’t go on for ever and that eventually the right medication will bring me back to the life I want to lead, but for now… I just want to get better. Alone.

So how does one deal with dating when your pretty much undateable … or unwilling to be dated?

February 10th, 2011

How About We…

It’s 2011 and Online Dating has become *the* most popular way to meet people… but haven’t we had enough of wading through seas of profiles in search of potential matches? Spending hours tweeking our likes/dislikes in hopes of catching the eye of that special someone? Wasting days upon days in correspondence till finally one of you suggests a meet?

Who even has the time anymore!?

Well good news fellow daters! HowAboutWe is here and they have an all new, exciting and adventurous approach to Online Dating!!

HowAboutWe is about putting the date back in dating. It’s simple and get’s right to the point! You sign up, complete a couple of brief profile questions, then just fill in your “How about we…” with date you want to go on! They even offer suggestions to help you get started.

After signing up you can view other member’s “How About We…” suggestions with options for bookmarking, letting the member know your intrigued, or straight up sending them a message. What’s even cooler is the Twitter and Facebook integration for the over-sharer in all of us. 😀

There weren’t too many members in my area *YET* but I really enjoyed surfing through all the “How About We…”s and even bookmarked a few ideas! Never again will I find myself stuck in an endless loop of “I dunno, what do YOU wanna do??”

Want some more good news? Just in time for Valentine’s DayHowAboutWe.com is offering a special 33% Off their service! Just use Promo Code: VDAYFUN when you Subscribe.

So go check it out! Get out there and DO something!!

November 23rd, 2010

Put Your Best Face Forward

We’ve all heard the saying “A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words” but when it comes to your online dating profile picture it can be worth so much more!

The difference between a good photo and a GREAT photo could be all it takes for that special someone to notice your profile. That’s the whole objective to online dating anyway, right? If you weren’t looking to get noticed, then why bother?

I’m an avid self-photo taker. I’m also fortunate enough to be pretty photogenic, so I’ve never really had much trouble attracting viewers to my profile. As a matter of fact a few months back while on vacation I snapped this picture when I was feeling a little fun and flirty.

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