I re-entered the dating pool about a year ago after ending a 15 year relationship and I’ve have no problems with meeting men online and dating as a result of it, but meeting guys offline??
I’ve got NO Game!
I guess I missed some valuable lessons in dating being all committed and monogamous for the majority of my adult life… and it’s not that I don’t know how to play the game, I am just naturally bad at it!
I’ve been told on many occasions that I have no game and I don’t “look” available when I am out. I’ve never been the girl that guys approach in public and it’s an extreme rarity that a guy will offer to buy me a drink when I am out.
So, the other night I’m out with my two BFFs and this guy comes up beside me at the bar where I’m seated to order a couple beers. I moved to give him way and offered some help getting the bartender’s attention…warning him with a laugh that they often ignore me here.
He asked if he could get me something to drink. I guess the empty glass in front of me was a little pathetic, but I declined. It’s not that I didn’t want another drink or that he was unattractive in any way, but my natural response was “No Thank You”… WTF is wrong with me??
He asked me twice more and I continued to decline for no good reason at all. All I could think of was getting out of there. In hindsight I realize that I was being completely foolish and it really wouldn’t have killed me to accept and have a conversation with this guy.
I guess this is just a habit I need to break. Some social defect I need to overcome. My brain still has some mentality of being unavailable and before I even had a chance to consider this guys offer I was cutting him off.
I seriously have no idea how to “get game” or if it can even be gotten, but I think I will put this on my wish list per chance any man ever approaches me in public again.
I welcome all suggestions… am I hopeless??
